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Take 5 Steps from Chaos to Stability

By • May 15th, 2008 • Category: Lifestyle Choices, Personal Development

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Whose life is not a mess sometimes, leaving them feeling out of control, helpless and afraid? These are not feelings we want to live with for too long. They cloud our minds and obscure our vision. They muddle our thinking and ruffle our emotions. And when we can’t think or see straight and don’t quite know what to feel and how to act, well, our lives can feel like one big mess.

If your life feels like a mess right now, stability may be just 5 steps away.

1. Know that you’re not alone.

You don’t have a monopoly on chaos no matter what form it takes. Although you might think you are, you are not alone. Once you ascend from this abyss, you are on the path to stability.

There is comfort and encouragement in God’s Word and prayer. He doesn’t give you more than you can bear. He gave you your cross and He will help you carry it. Plus, you can find ears to listen, shoulders to cry on and hands to help in your church community.

Your situation can seem small in the forest of other people’s troubles. You can find welcomed relief when you reach out to someone else who is struggling to stay afloat in their own sea of chaos.

2. Know what you’re up against.

We can work ourselves into a frenzy over a mere suspicion, perceived threat or premature anxiety. Of course there is always a chance that our perceptions may prove to be on target. But until we are sure, we could be wasting precious time stirring up a whirlwind of unnecessary worry.

You can’t fight a phantom and you are doomed to defeat, if you keep struggling with a confusing situation that you don’t understand.

Set aside any preconceived ideas. Become a keen observer of your own life and the issues or people that might be causing the chaos. Keep an open mind. Ask questions of people who can be objective, will be honest and have nothing to gain whether your are wrong or right.

3. Know your options.

What can you do about your chaos? Many times, when other people are involved in causing the upheaval and others are feeling the crunch like you are, it is difficult to come up with strategies that will resolve the matter amicably for everyone. But strategize you must. Whatever you do, try to be gentle with the persons who might be hurting and firm with those who are fighting you at every turn.

You don’t have to handle the problem by yourself either. Depending on the issue, you could call for back-up or an intervention by a professional.

Although you want to get to the end of this period in your life, work with short term goals. Even if you are not in a position to eradicate the confusion, you can still salvage some relief for yourself and those closest to you who might also be affected. Each day, or weekend, do one thing to alleviate the pressure and lift your spirits.

4. Know who your friends are.

I can’t stress enough the strength you can garner from the love and support of true friends. You don’t need a battalion of people around you spouting advice and drowning out the sound of your own thoughts.

True friends jump in the ring with you. They let you cry your “ugly cry” and shamelessly cry along with you. In their eyes you see, “I love you; I understand.” They open their hearts and give of their time and resources to help ease the strain you are going through.

5. Know when to let it go.

We are guilty of holding on so tightly to a chaotic situation that we miss indicators that it is time to let it go. After we have prayed, and analyzed and strategized, comes the time when we have to say that we have done all that we can do. We must let it go and shift our focus to rebuilding stability in our lives.

That decision doesn’t say that you are throwing in the towel and giving up in despair. Rather, it says that you know when it is time to stop fighting with the chaos in order to maintain your dignity, your sanity and reclaim some stability. Not everything has to be solved immediately and to your desired satisfaction. Very often you have to acknowledge a messy situation and let it go while you concentrate on keeping your life stable enough for you to function in your respective roles.

You life may seem to be made up of an endless round of chaotic situations, leaving you with barely enough time to catch your breath. The chaos may even appear to take on a life of its own making you feel like an outsider looking in on your own life. But it doesn’t have to be that way. Reclaiming stability in your life is not easy. It requires a mindset that says, “I trust God to see me through this. I will do everything that I can to keep going day by day so that I may emerge from this chaos a stronger person.”

If you are living with chaos and your life feels as if it is spinning out of control, it is time to replace the helpless and hopeless feelings with the calm of stability which may be just five steps away.

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